Is It Weird to Be Friends With Your Ex?

It’s not often that you meet someone who’s friends with their ex.

Most people prefer to avoid their ex like a plague. They remove any traces of them in their life and pretend that that chapter of their life never happened.

But there are some people who choose to stay friends with their exes. They also find it easy to seamlessly fall back into their previous dynamics as though nothing happened.

Now you might be thinking “That’s impossible! There’s no way you can erase what you’ve been through like that.”

This is true. There are far too many things that you’ve gone through as a couple that it’s going to be hard to forget everything and just stay friends.

So why is it that some people can still manage to be friends with their exes?

Platonic vs. Romantic Love

It’s most likely that the people who choose to stay friends with their exes started out as their friend in the first place.

They may have possibly decided to try things out of curiosity. They wanted to see if the love that they hold for their friend may be something more than platonic.

Some couples find it difficult to transition from friends to lovers. You’ll have to change how you see them and try to put them under a romantic light.

So they choose to stay as friends instead.

They find it so easy to revert back to their friendship status because whatever romantic feelings they had for each other were never really that deep.

This isn’t always the case for everyone, of course. There are some friends who turn into lovers that end in a one-sided love, which can cause an immense strain on their relationship.

That doesn’t mean there’s no chance of them ever going back as friends. Some people would rather put their friendship first before anything else. It’s why losing a friend is much more painful than losing a lover.

Lovers come and go into your life. But friendships stay forever.

Fond Moments and Lingering Feelings

It’s never comfortable for people to disclose that they’re still friends with their ex. Some even go as far as to avoid telling their inner circle that they are on good terms.

Most people believe that being friends with your ex only means you still have feelings for them and that you aren’t willing to let them go just yet.

Your current partner may even find it suspicious that you’re still friends with your old flame. This may spark jealousy and cause her to doubt you as a trustworthy partner.

This belief has made it hard for some ex-couples to treat each other like normal friends. You will always be faced with doubts, prejudice, teasing, and the like.

That, however, doesn’t stop some exes from trying to rekindle their friendship. They would rather face difficulties than lose a valued friend.

It’s never unusual to be on good terms with your ex. If anything, it says a lot about your character.

This only proves that you’re someone who’s worth keeping, whether in love or in life.