Rejection Isn’t Always a Bad Thing
We always like to be accepted. That is because we have associated acceptance with survival. In ancient times, people needed the company of others to survive. Being alone meant you were less likely to find food or fend off predators.
Unfortunately, life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Rejection is a fact of life, especially in dating, and it often comes with feelings of depression, failure, and self-pity. If you are someone who is easily disappointed, you’re going to have a hard time dating.
Fortunately, rejection is actually good for you.
Before you raise your white flag on dating, hear me out. Rejection is actually good for your development. Here are several reasons why:
- To avoid a mismatch. If someone rejects you, it is because she doesn’t see you as a suitable match. You don’t click. There’s no spark. Forcing a relationship with someone you don’t match with will only end up in disagreements, and possibly a toxic relationship.
- It allows you to improve. You can use your experience to improve yourself after a rejection. Regroup and ask yourself what went wrong. You can always use that knowledge moving forward.
- It gets you right on track. When you are rejected, it is because things didn’t work out. You were following a path to uncertainty. With rejection, you can correct your path and get on the right track.
- You learn to come out of your comfort zone. Regardless of the outcome, you went out of your way to try and make it right with someone. You left your comfort zone, and now you are ready for the next hurdle. With your newfound confidence, you grow stronger with each rejection.
Coping with rejection.
Nobody likes to be rejected, but it is a fact of life. When you ask someone out for a date and she rejects you, it can be hard, painful, and depressing. Don’t dwell on the matter when you can deal with it positively.
Accept it.
Be honest with yourself. It is the only way to free yourself from the pain of rejection. Acknowledge it. Everyone gets rejected every now and then and you are no exception.
Stay positive.
It is easy to get caught up in the pain of rejection. But don’t dwell on the negative stuff. Take it as a learning experience. How can you improve your next date to avoid the same from happening again? What should I do more, and what should I do less?
Keep things in perspective.
It is okay to get rejected because you can always try harder next time. Give yourself credit for trying even if it didn’t work out the way you wanted it to. There are plenty of fish in the ocean.
At the end of the day, you can’t force anyone to accept you. Whether in dating or work, rejection is a part of life. You can use that experience to shape yourself into a better individual. Rejection isn’t always a bad thing. It only becomes negative when you allow yourself to dwell on it. So pick up your feet and carry on.
