Yes, It’s Okay to Stay Single

These days, many celebrations are tied to relationships — from bachelor parties to engagement dinners. While events like these are usually joyous, some singles can’t help but feel a bit left out in the sea of lovers.

The feeling gets worse when people incessantly ask why those singles, well, stay single. Annoying, yes?

Questions like that make you want to scream and tell them to mind their own business.

The good news is that you’re not alone.

Even though some treat it like a disease, the single life isn’t a bad thing. People often overlook the freedom that comes with it since they’re understandably tied down in their relationships.

If you’re one of those folks who have doubts about it, allow the following points to convince you that there’s nothing wrong with being on your own.

There’s no pressure.

The commitment that relationships (especially long-term ones) need can bring unwarranted pressure. People will be all up in your face about things like getting married and having kids — life-changing decisions that they aren’t involved in, by the way!

Single people don’t have to deal with those matters as they’re free to do whatever they want. While they have their own pressures, they don’t suffer the same consequences “taken” people do when they don’t bow to them.

No time is wasted.

Let’s be honest: we’ve all been with a person who wasn’t worth the effort. While that sucks, don’t be too down in the dumps about it. Someone better will come.

Staying single after such fallouts helps you figure out who and what to avoid. Take the lessons you’ve learned and save time for people who matter.

Rolling with the punches gets easier.

Singles deal with change just as much as people in committed relationships do. When life throws its curveballs, adjustments are less stressful because they don’t need to add other people into the equation.

Circles get wider.

People who stay single get more chances to know people outside of their usual circles. Since they don’t have partners, they tend to look to friends for moral support.

Use the free time you have to meet new people. If you’re not much of a social animal, you can always reconnect with friends you’ve lost touch with over the years. You’ll be surprised by how much you’ve missed out on.

Take part in some self-growth and care.

Singlehood means more time for yourself. Go ahead and do things that make you feel great!

There’s no need to feel guilty about enjoying your “me” time, especially now that you don’t have someone else to think about.

Sometimes, we lose our sense of self when we’re tied down. When a relationship ends, we feel like a part of us died along with it.

If that happens to you, embrace your newly-single status and nurse yourself from your heartache. Remember, you are your own person and no relationship should change that.

For some people, it’s difficult to stay single — and we shouldn’t judge them for that. They have their reasons, such as peer/societal pressure, or a yearning for a loving relationship.

If you’re experiencing such struggles, don’t hesitate to ask for help. There are therapists out there who can help you ease your troubles. Their expert advice will help you as you find your place in the world.

Staying single shouldn’t be a big deal. It’s your choice to do so and no one should force you out of it.

Don’t be afraid to embrace your own company. After all, the world is your oyster.